the "love drug;" pheromones, which are produced from DHEA and result in sensuality, a sense of well-being, and comfort; and oxytocin, or the cuddle hormone that's released when people get physically close.
So why do we have that heart-fluttering reaction with some people and not others?
I'd heard similar complaints from friends: potential dates who texted too much, too little; used too many emojis, didn’t seem to understand emojis at all; were too serious, used to many “lols” when they clearly were not .
Each text was carefully analyzed for hidden meaning.
These discussions aren’t all that different from those of generations past: pick up lines have always been picked apart and the art of the voicemail analyzed by singles long before the advent of texting.
And many of the old, gendered traditions of who reaches out to whom and when have (for better or worse) persisted.
Which – brace yourselves, I’m about to blow your minds – is bullshit. Marketers know this, which is why they practice artificial scarcity – they’ll tell you “Call now, supplies are running out!
D., a master certified Gottman Therapist and Chicago-based couples counselor.
It can be purely sexual, or it can be a deeper feeling that someone understands you.
Except the same principle applies: we want what we can’t have.
And we can deliberately invoke that in the people we’re dating. What makes them work the steep drops, the loops, corkscrews and hard banking turns, it’s the loooooong build-up at the beginning.